Human dynamics

The thing about human relationships is that it is fucking complicated. Family, friends, love - as long as a man is not a loner, he will face the complexities wrought by emotions that overcome rationale thought.


Family 


Often taken for granted, a family has already accepted your living habits much more than any condoning roommate would. But then comes other problems. Fights, abuse, assault, verbal insult, harsh criticism, hatred bordering on love, love bordering hatred, forgiveness, anger.


How does one deal with a cauldron of such emotions broiling every now and then, and often threatening to spill and splutter? Repression obviously doesn't work because the extremely oppressed people I've encountered have so much hatred in their hearts, it amazes me how they can ever learn to love.


When it comes to family, you can't walk away.


Friends


Less taken for granted compared to Family, but is often the most misunderstood, misinterpreted relationship forged with another human being. More often than not, friends tend to stab you in the back, rather than in front of you. Only true friends will stab you in the front they say.


But it's not that simple.


A person's character sometimes disallows people from stabbing them from the front and right into the heart, because everyone has a natural defense mechanism. It's in-built. There's nothing we can do. So instead of igniting a mechanism that either defends or assaults you back, you walk away and choose a non-confrontational path.


So we end up forgoing many relationships. But there are a few that you can't walk away from and end up walking back.


Love


Too much has been written, too much has been said. If the above two relationships take so much to maintain, this takes the cake for being the most-pain-in-ass relationship to maintain.


That's why I'm not even going to go there. 


I'm just relieved I don't need to.